indian youth is confused bunch as far as sex is concerned. there is always conflict of indian culture & western openness in their minds. they are leading a dual confused personality. as far as sex education is concern " Indian still learn their Ist lesson of sex from Dogs & Cows" and inact the same in their life." pramod
Gaurav
· 5 years ago
I do agree with you pramod. I think the reason behind being confused is the restrictions that our society has imposed on the kids or even adults.
When a child reaches puberty biologically he/she has the urge to know more about the human body and the opposite sex. In India these thoughts are supressed and parents as well as school preaches that one should not have these kind of thoughts..... when the kids don't get an answer from their school or parents (who they trust the most) then they try to explore themselves. They look at magz, sites, talk to friends and thus get all the knowledge. Sometimes they get accurate information and at other times its just a peice of fiction of someone's mind.
If parents and/or school provide all the answers to the inquisitive kids....then they wouldn't be looking for the answers elsewhere. Its a human tendency to explore and find out something which is being hidden by others....so its the society which needs an overall makeup!
ekaansh
· 5 years ago
written really well....
Paul
· 5 years ago
Gaurav, this was a fairly insightful entry. It's nice to see someone not either being hysterical or simply condemning the two students involved in the DPS RK Puram "sex scandal." There is nothing to explain or explain away here -- it's just two young people who made a mistake. Society (Hindustani or otherwise) will not crumble as a result.
However, I think you've done a disservice to American schools by quoting an unnamed source who cited rampant sex in American schools. If you can't provide a link to substantiate the story of the 5th-graders sleeping with all their classmates, then I would suggest it is untrue or at the very least embellished. With today's culture of "zero tolerance" in American schools, it defies reason that a trio of prepubescent schoolgirls could sleep with even ONE boy without the entire school knowing about it. I searched and could find no mention of this story, not even on urban legend websites.
Similarly, the claims of "sex for money in the basement" have been going on in various forms for decades. Nearly everyone in America has heard of a basement bathroom at a library or school (or other public facility like a museum) where sex is available, either for a fee or free (usually homosexual in the latter case.) Given American society's legal disapproval of sex in public places, it is likely that most of these stories are simply false.
This is not to say that teenage Americans aren't having sex. There was a scandal in (I believe) 1996 about a large group of high-school students in Conyers, Georgia who began developing symptoms from a sexually transmitted disease. The local health department made a chart of the students' various admitted sex partners that looked more like a diagram belonging to a software deployment than one documenting human relationships. But none of these encounters occurred in a school. All the reported events took place at their parents' homes, usually while the parents were away or asleep. PBS-TV made a documentary about these events that aired on the programme "Frontline."
So to summarize, I'd say that there is lots of sex happening in America, but the idea that young girls are prostituting themselves in subterranean basements is just a silly notion postulated by easily-titillated adults who probably don't get enough sex themselves. One doesn't need to resort to fantasy to realize that there is plenty of sex happening all around us amongst the underaged, and it will continue to happen until there are no more young people who want to explore, be reckless, and make their own mistakes.
Gaurav
· 5 years ago
Thanks ekaansh.
Thanks for expressing your views Paul. I don't have any experience or interaction with American High Schools as I did my schooling in India. I just qouted someone, who I believed said the truth (I have no proof though.) The person is not unnamed, but th forum's links can't point to an individual posts so checkout the link provided with the qoute and scroll down to 21st post.
Its possible that the info provided by the person isn't 100% correct or may be he/she got that from unreliable sources. To me, it doesn't matter where the activities are held, be it school or college or their parent's homes, but the fact is that American teens are getting drugs very easily.
In California, getting an ID for an underage is very easy, you can get that as low as $20.00 (may be they are on sale on Christmas :P). Once again, I haven't got a fake ID but I know a guy who got his gf a fake ID for 20 bucks and she was 18 at that time.
Its possible that American High Schools aren't that bad as described by that person. US High school students do get Sex Edu. but still "U.S. teenagers have one of the highest pregnancy rates in the western world -- twice as high as rates found in England, New Zealand, and Canada" Check it out here.
I also happen to get this story from Google. It is not from US but UK.
Gaurav
· 4 years ago
Amit, my cousin who has been born and brought up in US, read the article and the comments yesterday and had a lot to say :p. He is also well versed with Indian society and living as he has spent a few years there too.
I haven't read all the links yet, just wanted to save them at someplace coz Yahoo doesn't save the offliners :| So I'll comment about them later. He also told me that he had heard something like the 5th graders case (dunno if he could get the link or not.) He also told me about a cpl. of incidents like that which happened around the area in diff. schools. I'd ask him to write a detailed comment.
Amit AkA RaJ
· 4 years ago
hey , i was born and raised in cali , but i lived in india 4 about 4 yearz so i lik to beleave i have a mix of both so i lik ta think i have seen a mix of both worlds in my eyez, i wont lie , and tell you india is innocent ,, i lived in punjab, and i had alot of female friends(no point intended) and guess what , about 80% of them i meet online, and 20% in my class,out of the 80% i met online i met 70% in person,, out of them i would say 12 or so out of 30some where dancers-modelz durring the day but prostiz at night, why is that , they wanted to live lik they where americanz, thats why the would ask me the most crazy thingz, lik wt do girls do in cali to get with guyz, i girl in pitucular ,, i wont say her name , but was beautiful and smart but was selling her body to be in music vidz, she got in and now is a well known celeb in punjabi music, but guess what, she still sells her bod, y? because its considered ok among starz.. that is what she told me, i know alot of people infact almost of my friends in the nineth grade(cali) wher not verg'nz , at ,my school in cali there where 3 seperate sexual act caught on campus, and many undetected, yea cali has ZERO TOLORANCE but who pays da district to hire add. staff ?? where i live in cali they discontinued sports and after school activityz due to a low budget,, so uncle sam isnt always watching , and its a major temptation to do things ur not supposed to , so it happens , alot, i would give personal exp, but i dont want to sign my death wish yet lol...
anoop
· 4 years ago
According to me this was a natural consequence of stopping child marriage.. and see this activity as crime is really bad... either allow child marriage or allow this type of activities... i dont have time to dicuss bye Anoop
Gaurav
· 4 years ago
Thanks for visiting my blog Anoop. I don't think that Child Marriage is a great idea. Marriage and a relationship are 2 different things. Marriage brings in a lot of responsibilities with it.
Mini
· 3 years ago
Hi. I study in DPS RKP, and I used to study there also when the MMS thing happened. It was not in school premises and the school has no right to expel the students. It's true that the girl was brilliant academically because I've got my sources within the school. But, sex in school is not a new thing and the papers are just making a big deal about it because this is the first time it was caught. Loads of sex still happens in our school, in fact even Grade 6 people indulge in such activities, it's not something new and it's no big deal. I study in the same school so I know, it happens all the time.
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Does make a lot of sense ...
pramod
When a child reaches puberty biologically he/she has the urge to know more about the human body and the opposite sex. In India these thoughts are supressed and parents as well as school preaches that one should not have these kind of thoughts..... when the kids don't get an answer from their school or parents (who they trust the most) then they try to explore themselves. They look at magz, sites, talk to friends and thus get all the knowledge. Sometimes they get accurate information and at other times its just a peice of fiction of someone's mind.
If parents and/or school provide all the answers to the inquisitive kids....then they wouldn't be looking for the answers elsewhere. Its a human tendency to explore and find out something which is being hidden by others....so its the society which needs an overall makeup!
However, I think you've done a disservice to American schools by quoting an unnamed source who cited rampant sex in American schools. If you can't provide a link to substantiate the story of the 5th-graders sleeping with all their classmates, then I would suggest it is untrue or at the very least embellished. With today's culture of "zero tolerance" in American schools, it defies reason that a trio of prepubescent schoolgirls could sleep with even ONE boy without the entire school knowing about it. I searched and could find no mention of this story, not even on urban legend websites.
Similarly, the claims of "sex for money in the basement" have been going on in various forms for decades. Nearly everyone in America has heard of a basement bathroom at a library or school (or other public facility like a museum) where sex is available, either for a fee or free (usually homosexual in the latter case.) Given American society's legal disapproval of sex in public places, it is likely that most of these stories are simply false.
This is not to say that teenage Americans aren't having sex. There was a scandal in (I believe) 1996 about a large group of high-school students in Conyers, Georgia who began developing symptoms from a sexually transmitted disease. The local health department made a chart of the students' various admitted sex partners that looked more like a diagram belonging to a software deployment than one documenting human relationships. But none of these encounters occurred in a school. All the reported events took place at their parents' homes, usually while the parents were away or asleep. PBS-TV made a documentary about these events that aired on the programme "Frontline."
So to summarize, I'd say that there is lots of sex happening in America, but the idea that young girls are prostituting themselves in subterranean basements is just a silly notion postulated by easily-titillated adults who probably don't get enough sex themselves. One doesn't need to resort to fantasy to realize that there is plenty of sex happening all around us amongst the underaged, and it will continue to happen until there are no more young people who want to explore, be reckless, and make their own mistakes.
Thanks for expressing your views Paul. I don't have any experience or interaction with American High Schools as I did my schooling in India. I just qouted someone, who I believed said the truth (I have no proof though.) The person is not unnamed, but th forum's links can't point to an individual posts so checkout the link provided with the qoute and scroll down to 21st post.
Its possible that the info provided by the person isn't 100% correct or may be he/she got that from unreliable sources. To me, it doesn't matter where the activities are held, be it school or college or their parent's homes, but the fact is that American teens are getting drugs very easily.
In California, getting an ID for an underage is very easy, you can get that as low as $20.00 (may be they are on sale on Christmas :P). Once again, I haven't got a fake ID but I know a guy who got his gf a fake ID for 20 bucks and she was 18 at that time.
Its possible that American High Schools aren't that bad as described by that person. US High school students do get Sex Edu. but still "U.S. teenagers have one of the highest pregnancy rates in the western world -- twice as high as rates found in England, New Zealand, and Canada" Check it out here.
I also happen to get this story from Google. It is not from US but UK.
Here are all his offliners.
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http://www.sundayherald.com/46857
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Later, according to the student, Stroud tried to convince her to have sex with him, but she declined. She also added that Stroud introduced her to Terrell Ellis, a Lehman graduate and self-described pimp, who suggested that the student could make a lot of money meeting men, the report stated. http://www.bxtimes.com/news/2004/1223/Front_Pag...
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Many are outraged by the arrest of the schoolboy, who, along with the girl, attended one of the capital's best known private schools, The Delhi Public School. "What are we trying to say here?" asked Dutt. "What do we believe is wrong? Was it that he had sex? Was it that he sent out the clip? Which part is the disturbing part?
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http://www.dailynews.co.za/index.php?fSectionId...
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http://news.mywebpal.com/news_tool_v2.cfm?pnpID...
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http://www.philly.com/mld/inquirer/news/local/s...
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http://independent-bangladesh.com/news/dec/24/2...
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http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/articleshow/...
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AT 16, SHE'S SOMEONE'S CHILD AT 16, SHE'S ALSO SOMEONE'S MOTHER
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dis is a relly good link,,, lots of us facts http://newpaper.asia1.com.sg/top/story/0,4136,8...
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Based on that number, Franzini and her team calculated Texas should expect 8,265 additional teen pregnancies, 5,372 teen births and 1,654 abortions. The economic impact could amount to $43.6 million per year in additional public health care costs. That figure does not take into account thousands of additional cases of sexually transmitted diseases in adolescents. http://www.chron.com/cs/CDA/ssistory.mpl/editor...
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Middle School teacher is awaiting trial on charges of sexual assault involving a female student. http://www.lsj.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/2...
I haven't read all the links yet, just wanted to save them at someplace coz Yahoo doesn't save the offliners :| So I'll comment about them later. He also told me that he had heard something like the 5th graders case (dunno if he could get the link or not.) He also told me about a cpl. of incidents like that which happened around the area in diff. schools. I'd ask him to write a detailed comment.
either allow child marriage or allow this type of activities...
i dont have time to dicuss
bye
Anoop